I don't like to tell the story about how hectic life is... When too many things come at the same time, just pick it up and move on. Alhamdullilah, I am greatful to Allah for making it easy for me to just go to sleep and switch off from the worldly life. Both my big man and lil man all the time complaining about my loud snoring...hehehe... I guess it goes with age. Well...trying to deny the fact that I am not that old.... why do I have loud snore?
BTW, how do I control this? Of course I don't know how bad it is since I slept like nobody business. But...but...I am seriously worried that I have to travel long distance this weekend in business class...Oh no...what do I do. Should I warn my neighbour that I might annoy him/her. Oh my my...it is embarrasing..
Anyway, I must figure out what to do with it...
I must remember (as quoted by Simah's father in law)... "a successful person is the one who are able to balance between life and career"... The reality is that my work is so demanding...Trying to balance is very challenging. A though came to my mind last week..how I wish I have a million in my account and I don't have to work after all my committment are cleared...Keep dreaming...
Something to be shared at the point when I need a self talk:
This technique has big fancy words for it too:'Pseudo-Orientation in Time.'
Pick a problem you have been experiencing recently.
Look out in front of you and allow yourself to imagine a more resourceful, wiser you. You could even imagine that this future you is pure wisdom light, a fully perfected being! Why not, this is just an imagination experiment after all...
Now physically walk up into your future self, step inside and take a few moments to notice how this feels and just experience that fully and completely...
As you do this, turn around and face the you in the present and observe how that you over there looks like with the problem. Now offer some advice, love and reassurance to that you in the present. How many different ways can that problem begin to resolve itself now?
Walk back into the present you and receive the messages from the future self. And then imagine that future self dissolving and mixing into your heart. Think about future situations where you would have had the problem and imagine being in the situation now with the new insights and resources. Actually run through a few scenarios because this helps your mind 'program in' and generalise the change.
One final thought:
Pick a resourceful state you want to experience more often in your life. Now instead of picking a problem to work with, use the resourceful state to 'go back to the future', and allow your future self to answer the following kind of question:
"What do I need to do to be able to experience this more often in my life?"
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Extracted from Colin G Smith, a licensed Master Practitioner of NLP and author of 'The Half Second Rule: Your Master Key to Safe, Rapid & Effective Change'.
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Monday, January 29, 2007
Snowflakes
Snowflakes are one of nature's most fragile things, but just look what they can do when they stick together
-Vista M. Kelly, Author -
Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven't half the strength you think they have
- Norman Vincent Peale, Broadcaster and Writer -
To do something, however small, to make others happier and better, is the highest ambition, the most elevating hope, which can inspire a human being
- Sir John Lubbock, Banker -
Note:
Ya Allah, dipagi yang hening ini aku bersyukur keatas apa yang telah Engkau kurniakan padaku. Alhamdullilah, Engkau makbulkan permintaanku agar dapat aku lalui hari-hariku disini dengan lebih tabah & cekal setakat kemampuanku. Hanya Dirimu yang mengetahui apa yang terbuku dihatiku. Aku terima segala dugaan yang telah Engkau berikan padaku. Ampunkanlah dosa-dosaku yang lalu agar dapat aku meneruskan perjalanan hidupku ini dengan hati dan fikiran yang tenang. Ya Allah, permudahkanlah urusan ku, keluargaku, sahabatku dan seluruh umatmu dimuka bumi ini. Hanya kepadaMu kami memohon dan meminta. Amin.
Thursday, December 28, 2006
Ku tanya hati...
Ku tanya hati
Ku tepuk dada sendiri
Manakah hala perjalanan ku ini?
Terasa sangsi masih ke belum mengerti
Adakah aku dilanda laluan pasti ?
Bertanyaku pada bayu yang menumpang jalan
Apakah berita yang suci dari sempadan ?
Berikan petunjuk hidayah dan pesanan
Bawakan doaku terus ke takhta pangkuan
Berbalas pandangan mataku dengan sang bulan
Bagaikan bicara mengharapkan pengertian
Moga disusun bintang yang berselerakan
Menjadi landasan laluan perjalanan
Ku tanya hati
Apakah bisa aku dikhianati
Dengan kata hati yang tidak pasti
Atau akukah yang tidak mengerti
Betapa berharganya hati yang suci
Subhanallah...
Indahnya hati pemberian Allah
Akan ku jaga biarpun payah
Akan ku hiasi dengan sifat mahmudah
Akan ku singkir sifat mazmumah
-Mata hati-
Petikan dari buku motivasi Ubat hati, Siti Nor Bahyah Mahamood
Ku tepuk dada sendiri
Manakah hala perjalanan ku ini?
Terasa sangsi masih ke belum mengerti
Adakah aku dilanda laluan pasti ?
Bertanyaku pada bayu yang menumpang jalan
Apakah berita yang suci dari sempadan ?
Berikan petunjuk hidayah dan pesanan
Bawakan doaku terus ke takhta pangkuan
Berbalas pandangan mataku dengan sang bulan
Bagaikan bicara mengharapkan pengertian
Moga disusun bintang yang berselerakan
Menjadi landasan laluan perjalanan
Ku tanya hati
Apakah bisa aku dikhianati
Dengan kata hati yang tidak pasti
Atau akukah yang tidak mengerti
Betapa berharganya hati yang suci
Subhanallah...
Indahnya hati pemberian Allah
Akan ku jaga biarpun payah
Akan ku hiasi dengan sifat mahmudah
Akan ku singkir sifat mazmumah
-Mata hati-
Petikan dari buku motivasi Ubat hati, Siti Nor Bahyah Mahamood
I am aware that my entry is full of songs and matters at heart. Nothing else. I guess this is the only avenue for me to write this kind of writing. Let it be…
Meeting two of my old friend last night. One of them (which I lost touch for more than 12 years) asked me to ponder the lyric of a song by Robbin William entitle "feel". According to this fren, it was a sudden impulsive thot somehow this song do associate with me and ask me too look at it. I thot it was weird. Some unanswered questions lingering in my mind but I don't dare asking more what triggered this song..I don't make any judgement, I don't rationalise but what I did was ... just smile and laugh for no particular reason...and I just let the thots transit and leave from my brain..
Came back home, I look up for the lyric of this song (which all this while I never bother to understand) and capture here...
Come on hold my hand
I wanna contact the living.
Not sure I understand,
This role I’ve been given.
I sit and talk to god
And he just laughs at my plans,
My head speaks a language,
I don’t understand.
I just wanna feel real love,
Feel the home that I live in.
cause I got too much life,
Running through my veins,
going to waste.
I don’t wanna die,
But I ain’t keen on living either.
Before I fall in love,
I’m preparing to leave her.
I scare myself to death,
That’s why I keep on running.
Before I’ve arrived,
I can see myself coming.
I just wanna feel real love,
Feel the home that I live in.
’cause I got too much life,
Running through my veins,
going to waste.
And I need to feel, real love
And a life ever after.
I cannot get enough.
I just wanna feel real love,
Feel the home that I live in,
I got too much love,
Running through my veins,
going to waste.
I just wanna feel real love,
In a life ever after
There’s a hole in my soul,
You can see it in my face,
it’s a real big place.
Come and hold my hand,
I wanna contact the living,
Not sure I understand,
This role I’ve been given
Not sure I understand.
Not sure I understand.
Not sure I understand.
Not sure I understand.
This might be the last entry for this year in case I might not get excess to internet for sometimes during this festive season.
Wishing everyone Selamat Hari Raya Aidil Adha and Happy New Year whereever you are.
Thot of the day:
"Success is not measured by what you accomplish but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds"
- Orison Marden, writer -
Loads of love from AM
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
A space to think
Is solitude something that we should actively seek or is it to be feared?
We’re so used to filling our days with people and distractions that we rarely consider the benefits and rewards of time spent alone.
(Caroline Roberts, Psychologies Magazine, January 2007)
Finding solitude,
1. Make time
Fitting alone-time into our lives can be a challenge.
Aiming for a short period everyday:
Even 5 minutes just staring out of the window can be restorative.
If possible, go for a walk or sit in the park.
A treatment such as massage can also provide an opportunity for reflection.
2. Clear your mind
Solitude can help us get in touch with our emotions, but to do this we have to tackle our racing minds.
Simple meditation techniques can help such as observing running water or visualizing a place that makes you feel calm.
3. Let go
It’s pointless spending your precious moments alone dwelling on things you can’t do anything about.
Acknowledge the presence of these thoughts, but try to let them pass through your mind without emotionally engaging with them.
4. Abandon your guilt
Don’ feel you have to spend every moment with your partner or family. Time alone can benefits relationships.
Negotiate with your partner to give each other breathing space.
5. Don’t force yourself
If you find that solitude makes you anxious or sad, there may be unresolved issues. Consider talking to a professional.
Solitude facilitates learning, thinking, innovation and the maintenance of contact with the inner world of the imagination.
(The above extracted from Psychologist Magazine, Jan 2007).
Yes, I had been reading this magazine every month during spare time or at a time when I need to divert my mind to something else other than my technical research. Also it serves as one of the ways to keep myself on positive thinking.
The above tips maybe so trivial to some of us, especially to myself. But sometimes we tend to forget when our mind in the state of irrational for whatever reason. I capture this to remind myself. Anytime anyday if I need a reminder, I can always come and read this entry.
This year is almost ended. I am still reflecting the past and also thinking about my future resolution. Not that only end of the year I does this but I always make it a point to ponder from time to time what had I accomplished for myself and others. To be honest, just recently I started to collect my future dream after being drown into the state of focusing only on specific goal in life.
I reflected those years that I had experience with solitude especially in the last several months. Flashing back many events and challenges I have to face, I focus my brain to keep the entire good one and put aside the bad, ugly on one corner of my brain.
To summarise, this is the life experience I had been through for the last several years.
1. Married woman with a complete family unit (a husband and a son)
2. Single parent with one son
3. Married and single life
These stages of life that I had been through teach me a lesson to appreciate others who have to live their life for certain category, to understand the challenge and how to adapt in different situation.
Many friends do questions me for having to go through these, but sometimes I left with no choice in hand. I have to decide what the best is at that particular time with HIS guidance. This life experience is priceless. I learn to know myself and to be myself and what is important in this life for me.
To my beloved fellow bloggers, wishing you:
Selamat hari raya Qurban & Happy New Year.
Dec 20, 2006.
We’re so used to filling our days with people and distractions that we rarely consider the benefits and rewards of time spent alone.
(Caroline Roberts, Psychologies Magazine, January 2007)
Finding solitude,
1. Make time
Fitting alone-time into our lives can be a challenge.
Aiming for a short period everyday:
Even 5 minutes just staring out of the window can be restorative.
If possible, go for a walk or sit in the park.
A treatment such as massage can also provide an opportunity for reflection.
2. Clear your mind
Solitude can help us get in touch with our emotions, but to do this we have to tackle our racing minds.
Simple meditation techniques can help such as observing running water or visualizing a place that makes you feel calm.
3. Let go
It’s pointless spending your precious moments alone dwelling on things you can’t do anything about.
Acknowledge the presence of these thoughts, but try to let them pass through your mind without emotionally engaging with them.
4. Abandon your guilt
Don’ feel you have to spend every moment with your partner or family. Time alone can benefits relationships.
Negotiate with your partner to give each other breathing space.
5. Don’t force yourself
If you find that solitude makes you anxious or sad, there may be unresolved issues. Consider talking to a professional.
Solitude facilitates learning, thinking, innovation and the maintenance of contact with the inner world of the imagination.
(The above extracted from Psychologist Magazine, Jan 2007).
Yes, I had been reading this magazine every month during spare time or at a time when I need to divert my mind to something else other than my technical research. Also it serves as one of the ways to keep myself on positive thinking.
The above tips maybe so trivial to some of us, especially to myself. But sometimes we tend to forget when our mind in the state of irrational for whatever reason. I capture this to remind myself. Anytime anyday if I need a reminder, I can always come and read this entry.
This year is almost ended. I am still reflecting the past and also thinking about my future resolution. Not that only end of the year I does this but I always make it a point to ponder from time to time what had I accomplished for myself and others. To be honest, just recently I started to collect my future dream after being drown into the state of focusing only on specific goal in life.
I reflected those years that I had experience with solitude especially in the last several months. Flashing back many events and challenges I have to face, I focus my brain to keep the entire good one and put aside the bad, ugly on one corner of my brain.
To summarise, this is the life experience I had been through for the last several years.
1. Married woman with a complete family unit (a husband and a son)
2. Single parent with one son
3. Married and single life
These stages of life that I had been through teach me a lesson to appreciate others who have to live their life for certain category, to understand the challenge and how to adapt in different situation.
Many friends do questions me for having to go through these, but sometimes I left with no choice in hand. I have to decide what the best is at that particular time with HIS guidance. This life experience is priceless. I learn to know myself and to be myself and what is important in this life for me.
To my beloved fellow bloggers, wishing you:
Selamat hari raya Qurban & Happy New Year.
Dec 20, 2006.
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
The brick!!!
My friend forwarded this message to me today...I paste it here for me to read and to share with you...
A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street, going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something. As his car passed, no children appeared. Instead, a brick smashed into the Jag's side door! He slammed on the brakes and backed the Jag back to the spot where the brick had been thrown. The angry driver then jumped out of the car, grabbed the nearest kid and pushed him up against a parked car shouting, "What was that all about and who are you? Just what the heck are you doing? That's a new car and that brick you threw is going to cost a lot of money. Why did you do it?" The young boy was apologetic. "Please, mister...please, I'm sorry but I didn't know what else to do," He pleaded. "I threw the brick because no one else would stop..." With tears dripping down his face and off his chin, the youth pointed to a spot just around a parked car. "It's my brother, "he said "He rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can't lift him up."
Now sobbing, the boy asked the stunned executive, "Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He's hurt and he's too heavy for me." Moved beyond words, the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He hurriedly lifted the handicapped boy back into the wheelchair, then took out a linen handkerchief and dabbed at the fresh scrapes and cuts. A quick look told him everything was going to be okay. "Thank you and may God bless you," the grateful child told the stranger. Too shook up for words, the man simply watched the boy! push his wheelchair-bound brother down the sidewalk toward their home.
It was a long, slow walk back to the Jaguar. The damage was very noticeable, but the driver never bothered to repair the dented side door. He kept the dent there to remind him of this message: "Don't go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention!" God whispers in our souls and speaks to our hearts. Sometimes when we don't have time to listen, He has to throw a brick at us. It's our choice to listen or not.
Thought for the Day:
If God had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it.
If He had a wallet, your photo would be in it.
He sends you flowers every spring.
He sends you a sunrise every morning Face it, friend - He is crazy about you!
God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow,sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.
Read this line very slowly and let it sink in...
If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.
YES, I love you too darling
A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street, going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something. As his car passed, no children appeared. Instead, a brick smashed into the Jag's side door! He slammed on the brakes and backed the Jag back to the spot where the brick had been thrown. The angry driver then jumped out of the car, grabbed the nearest kid and pushed him up against a parked car shouting, "What was that all about and who are you? Just what the heck are you doing? That's a new car and that brick you threw is going to cost a lot of money. Why did you do it?" The young boy was apologetic. "Please, mister...please, I'm sorry but I didn't know what else to do," He pleaded. "I threw the brick because no one else would stop..." With tears dripping down his face and off his chin, the youth pointed to a spot just around a parked car. "It's my brother, "he said "He rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can't lift him up."
Now sobbing, the boy asked the stunned executive, "Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He's hurt and he's too heavy for me." Moved beyond words, the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He hurriedly lifted the handicapped boy back into the wheelchair, then took out a linen handkerchief and dabbed at the fresh scrapes and cuts. A quick look told him everything was going to be okay. "Thank you and may God bless you," the grateful child told the stranger. Too shook up for words, the man simply watched the boy! push his wheelchair-bound brother down the sidewalk toward their home.
It was a long, slow walk back to the Jaguar. The damage was very noticeable, but the driver never bothered to repair the dented side door. He kept the dent there to remind him of this message: "Don't go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention!" God whispers in our souls and speaks to our hearts. Sometimes when we don't have time to listen, He has to throw a brick at us. It's our choice to listen or not.
Thought for the Day:
If God had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it.
If He had a wallet, your photo would be in it.
He sends you flowers every spring.
He sends you a sunrise every morning Face it, friend - He is crazy about you!
God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow,sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.
Read this line very slowly and let it sink in...
If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.
YES, I love you too darling
Friday, November 17, 2006
A lesson in life
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, if they be events, illnesses or relationships, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere.
If someone hurts you, betrays you , or breaks you heart, forgive them. For they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to who you open your heart to.
If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and opening your heart and eyes to things you would have never seen or felt without them.
Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again.
Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you either.
You can make of your life anything you wish.
Create your own life and then go out and live it.
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Note:
Soon my internet service at my flat will be disconnected. I will not be able to have any entry or blogging for a while.
Thank you for your wishes, support and prayer. Only Allah will be able to pay you back.
Will meet again. Insyaallah.
Good bye for now.
Keep smiling, laughing and loving..:-)
Love,
Anggerik Merah
anggerik2005@yahoo.com
Nov 19, 2006
5:15 pm
If someone hurts you, betrays you , or breaks you heart, forgive them. For they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to who you open your heart to.
If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and opening your heart and eyes to things you would have never seen or felt without them.
Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again.
Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you either.
You can make of your life anything you wish.
Create your own life and then go out and live it.
----------
Note:
Soon my internet service at my flat will be disconnected. I will not be able to have any entry or blogging for a while.
Thank you for your wishes, support and prayer. Only Allah will be able to pay you back.
Will meet again. Insyaallah.
Good bye for now.
Keep smiling, laughing and loving..:-)
Love,
Anggerik Merah
anggerik2005@yahoo.com
Nov 19, 2006
5:15 pm
Tuesday, November 14, 2006
Life on the train
To all my beloved blogger frens who left comment in previous entry...thanks so much from the bottom of my heart. I have no clue how to reply. Please forgive me and love ya all....
Those who came without a trace...also my sincere appreciation.
I decided to republish earlier entry (Dec 5, 2005) since I found it theraupetic for me at this point of time.
Enjoy it.
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My beloved friend sent this to me this morning. My special thanks to the original author (whoever he or she was..).
I dedicated this to all passengers at sentraalstation (especially to Kak Teh, the station master) and all those in the blogging world..with love from Anggerik Merah…
A while back, I read a very interesting book that compared life to a train ride or a series of train rides.
Life is like a train ride, it read
We get on
We ride
We get off
We get back on and ride some more
There are accidents and there are delays
At certain stops there are surprises
Some of these will translate into great moments of joy
Some will result in profound sorrow
When we are born and we first board the train
We met people whom we think will be with us for the entire journey
Those people are our parents!
Sadly, this is far from the truth
Our parents are with us for as long as we absolutely need them
They too have journeys they must complete
We live on with the memories of their love, affection, friendship, guidance and their ever presence
These are others who board the train and who eventually become very important to us, in turn
These people are our brothers, sisters, friends and acquaintance, whom we will learn to love and cherish
Some people consider their journey like a jaunty tour
They will just go merrily along
Others will encounter many upsets, tears, losses on their journey
Others still, will linger on the offer a helping hand to anyone in need
Some people on the train will leave an everlasting impression when they get off
Some will get on and get off the train so quickly, they will scarcely leave a sign that they ever travelled along with you or even crossed your path
We will sometimes be upset that some passengers whom we love, will choose to sit in another compartment and leave us to travel on our own
Then again, there’s nothing that says we can’t seek them out anyway
Nevertheless, once sought out and found, we may not even be able to sit next to them because that seat will already be taken
That’s okay…everyone’s journey will be filled with hope, dreams, challenges, setbacks and goodbyes
We must strive to make the best of it….no matter what
We must constantly strive to understand our travel companions and look for the best in everyone
Remember that at any moment during our journey, any one of our travel companions can have a weak moment and be in need of our help
We too may vacillate or hesitate, even trip…hopefully we can count on someone being there to be supportive and understanding….
The bigger mystery of our journey is that we don’t know when our last stop will come
Neither do we know when our travel companions will make their last stop
Not even those sitting in the seat next to us
Personally, I know I’ll be sad to make my final stop…I’m sure of it!
My separation from all those friends and acquaintances I made during the train ride will be painful
Leaving all those I’m close to will be a sad thing.
But then again, I’m certain that one day I’ll get to the main station only to meet up with everyone else.
They’ll all be carrying their baggage…most of which they didn’t have when they first got on this train
I’ll be glad to see them again
I’ll also be glad to have contributed to their baggage…and to have enriched their lines, just as much as they will have contributed to my baggage and enriched my life
We’re all on this train ride together.
Above all, we should all try to strive to make the ride as pleasant and memorable as we can, right up until we each make the final stop and leave the train for the last time.
All aboard! Safe journey!!
BON VOYAGE
Those who came without a trace...also my sincere appreciation.
I decided to republish earlier entry (Dec 5, 2005) since I found it theraupetic for me at this point of time.
Enjoy it.
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My beloved friend sent this to me this morning. My special thanks to the original author (whoever he or she was..).
I dedicated this to all passengers at sentraalstation (especially to Kak Teh, the station master) and all those in the blogging world..with love from Anggerik Merah…
A while back, I read a very interesting book that compared life to a train ride or a series of train rides.
Life is like a train ride, it read
We get on
We ride
We get off
We get back on and ride some more
There are accidents and there are delays
At certain stops there are surprises
Some of these will translate into great moments of joy
Some will result in profound sorrow
When we are born and we first board the train
We met people whom we think will be with us for the entire journey
Those people are our parents!
Sadly, this is far from the truth
Our parents are with us for as long as we absolutely need them
They too have journeys they must complete
We live on with the memories of their love, affection, friendship, guidance and their ever presence
These are others who board the train and who eventually become very important to us, in turn
These people are our brothers, sisters, friends and acquaintance, whom we will learn to love and cherish
Some people consider their journey like a jaunty tour
They will just go merrily along
Others will encounter many upsets, tears, losses on their journey
Others still, will linger on the offer a helping hand to anyone in need
Some people on the train will leave an everlasting impression when they get off
Some will get on and get off the train so quickly, they will scarcely leave a sign that they ever travelled along with you or even crossed your path
We will sometimes be upset that some passengers whom we love, will choose to sit in another compartment and leave us to travel on our own
Then again, there’s nothing that says we can’t seek them out anyway
Nevertheless, once sought out and found, we may not even be able to sit next to them because that seat will already be taken
That’s okay…everyone’s journey will be filled with hope, dreams, challenges, setbacks and goodbyes
We must strive to make the best of it….no matter what
We must constantly strive to understand our travel companions and look for the best in everyone
Remember that at any moment during our journey, any one of our travel companions can have a weak moment and be in need of our help
We too may vacillate or hesitate, even trip…hopefully we can count on someone being there to be supportive and understanding….
The bigger mystery of our journey is that we don’t know when our last stop will come
Neither do we know when our travel companions will make their last stop
Not even those sitting in the seat next to us
Personally, I know I’ll be sad to make my final stop…I’m sure of it!
My separation from all those friends and acquaintances I made during the train ride will be painful
Leaving all those I’m close to will be a sad thing.
But then again, I’m certain that one day I’ll get to the main station only to meet up with everyone else.
They’ll all be carrying their baggage…most of which they didn’t have when they first got on this train
I’ll be glad to see them again
I’ll also be glad to have contributed to their baggage…and to have enriched their lines, just as much as they will have contributed to my baggage and enriched my life
We’re all on this train ride together.
Above all, we should all try to strive to make the ride as pleasant and memorable as we can, right up until we each make the final stop and leave the train for the last time.
All aboard! Safe journey!!
BON VOYAGE
Friday, September 01, 2006
Pesanan Orang Tua
I receive a forwarded email from a friend today. I wish to post it here for me to read. And also to share with others who wish to read... semuga memberi menafaat untuk kita bersama..
Will be back with my own entry later when I am physically fit*. Till then....
Will be back with my own entry later when I am physically fit*. Till then....
* due to hormone imbalance which driving me nuts & melancholic!
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Assalamualaikum,
I feel its good to relay to everyone kisah benar yang saya lalui.
Baru - baru ni ketika saya nak ke Surau berdekatan dgn rumah saya untuk sembahyang Isyak, seorang pak cik berjanggut putih dan berjubah putih dari jauh melemparkan senyum kepada saya. Kerana masih ada banyak waktu, saya tunggu pak cik berjanggut putih tu dan bertongkat yang tidak saya kenali itu. Timbul di hati saya untuk jalan seiringan ke surau.
Bila beliau hampir pada saya, kami saling memberi salam. Orangnya sudah berumur. Tiba-tiba, pak cik itu memulakan perbualan. Beliau cakap dalam bahasa Melayu dan Inggeris ( speaking landong lagi) yang agak baik. Beliau cakap semua ayat Quran baik dan penting, tapi ada tiga surah yang beliau 'pegang' betul-betul, dan beliau nasihatkan saya supaya pegang betul-betul juga. Beliau juga nasihatkan saya supaya pesan pada anak-anak supaya pegangnya betul-betul.
Pertama, kata beliau, surah Al-Fatihah. Selain penting untuk sah sembahyang, ia juga ada doa minta bantuan Tuhan dan mintak tunjukkan jalan yang betul. Mudah-mudahan dengan 'menjaga' bersungguh-sungguh surah Al-Fatihah, akan terbuka pintu bantuan dan jalan yang betul untuk kita, kata pakcik.
Kedua, Surah Al-Ikhlas. Surah ini, katanya, surah tauhid. Kita mesti ingat Tuhan itu Esa dan semua amalan mesti untuknya. Tak guna buat baik tapi tak ikhlas.
Ketiga, surah Al-Kafirun, kata pak cik. Bahagian ini, menarik sikit. Pak cik tu cakap surah Al-Kafirun ada kena mengena dengan zaman sekarang, zaman globalisasi. Dalam zaman globalisasi, katanya,anak-anak saya mesti diajar supaya pegang betul-betul surah itu. Sebab, dalam zaman globalisasi, anak saya mungkin kena kerja atau belajar sampai ke Amerika atau ke mana-mana. Kalau dia pegang pada surah Al-Kafirun, insya-Allah, dia akan selamat, kata pakcik. Dia akan bergaul dengan orang beragama lain, tapi dia sedar'untukmu agamamu, untukku agamaku'.
Betul juga, fikir saya. Kemudian, pak cik cakap ada satu lagi perkara yang saya mesti pegang. Orang Islam, katanya, mesti ada tiga kekuatan.
Pertama, kekuatan minda.
Minda, kata pak cik, ialah ilmu. Orang Islam mesti ada ilmu,termasuk ilmu moden, ilmu teknologi, ilmu teknologi maklumat (IT) dan sebagainya kerana ilmu-ilmu itu perlu untuk hidup.
Kedua, kekuatan hati.
Hati ialah iman, kata pak cik. Hati orang Islam mesti kuat supaya betapa banyak sekali pun ilmunya, dia sedar siapa yang lebih berkuasa. Bila ilmu ada iman, barulah ilmu dan hidup jadi betul. Kalau minda kuat tapi hati tak kuat, maknanya kekuatan tak seimbang dan ilmu boleh rosakkan iman, kata pak cik.
Ketiga, kuat fizikal.
Pertama-pertama, kalau tubuh badan lemah, susah ilmu nak masuk dalam minda, kata pak cik. Kalau pun ada ilmu dan ada iman, jika tubuh badan tak kuat, susah nak beramal. Maknanya, kekuatan masih tak seimbang, katanya.
Habis saja pak cik cakap pasal tiga surah dan tiga kekuatan, beliau minta diri dan hilang dari pandangan saya setiba nya di surau tersebut.
Terima kasih kepada pak cik berjanggut tu. Sebelum itu beliau berpesan agar saya sebarkan kepada yang lain. Pesanannya memang baik untuk saya sampaikan. Terpulang kepada anda untuk menerima nya atau tidak.
Segala yang baik adalah ilham dari Allah dan segala yang buruk itu datang dari kelemahan setiap insan.
~Wallahualam~
Monday, August 28, 2006
Untuk renungan bersama...
Tertarik dengan article yang disiarkan dalam Utusan Malaysia August 26, 2006. Sedikit keratan nya untuk dijadikan pedoman and renungan kita bersama....terutama untuk diri saya yang serba kekurangan...
Jendela Hikmah: Empat punca hidup manusia tidak tenteram
Oleh Endok Sempo M Tahir
SEKUMPULAN bekas pelajar sebuah universiti berkumpul menziarahi bekas pensyarah mereka. Pensyarah itu amat gembira menerima kedatangan bekas pelajar yang berjaya dalam jurusan dan kehidupan masing-masing. Mereka bertanya khabar dengan penuh mesra dan terus terang. Perbincangan berlanjutan sehingga menyangkut kepada permasalahan berbentuk peribadi. Ada yang mengeluh, mengadu dan meluahkan perasaan yang tertekan dengan pelbagai permasalahan, tekanan hidup berkeluarga, dengan rakan di tempat kerja serta masyarakat sekeliling.
Pensyarah itu hanya tersenyum dan terus menuju ke dapur untuk mengambil cawan pelbagai bentuk dan warna. Ada yang dibuat daripada tembikar, kaca dan plastik. Ada yang cantik, penuh hiasan, kelihatan mahal dan ada yang biasa saja dan murah. Pensyarah itu menjemput semua bekas anak murid itu minum menggunakan cawan pilihan mereka.
Apabila semua bekas pelajar itu mengambil cawan yang terisi air, dia pun berkata: ”Jika kamu perhatikan, semua cawan yang cantik dan mahal itu diambil, yang tinggal hanya cawan yang biasa-biasa dan murah! “Begitulah lumrahnya kita hanya akan memilih yang terbaik (menurut pandangan luaran), sebenarnya itulah punca masalah dan tekanan hidup yang kita semua hadapi!”
Apa yang kita perlukan sebenarnya adalah air, bukan cawan itu, tetapi kita secara tidak sedar memilih cawan yang cantik saja! Demikianlah kehidupan ini – ibarat air. Kerjaya, wang ringgit dan kedudukan dalam masyarakat semuanya umpama cawan yang beraneka warna itu. Semua itu adalah alat atau pemudah cara untuk meneruskan hidup tetapi kualiti hidup tidak berubah. Jika kita hanya menumpukan perhatian kepada cawan, kita tidak ada masa untuk menghargai, merasakan dan menikmati air itu!
Apa yang pensyarah itu katakan bertepatan dengan apa yang al- Quran bentangkan mengenai jiwa manusia yang selalu berkeluh kesah dan tidak pernah rasa cukup. Pelbagai permasalahan kita berpunca daripada empat perkara:
# Kita hanya memandang dan menginginkan apa yang ada pada tangan orang lain. Kita tidak nampak atau lupakan nikmat di dalam genggaman kita. Walhal, Allah telah berikan kepada kita. Oleh itu kita tidak rasakan ‘keseronokan’ atau terasa nikmat dengan pemberian itu.
# Kita terlalu banyak ‘komplen’ dan komen (mengadu) dan mengeluh serta menyalahkan keadaan sehingga kepada permasalahan sekecil-kecilnya dalam kehidupan dunia ini. Tetapi, kita sering lupa kesusahan dan penderitaan sebenar yang bakal kita hadapi di akhirat kelak.
# Kita terlalu mengejar kemewahan, kemegahan dan glamor kehidupan sehingga melupakan tujuan hidup kita sebenarnya. Inilah sebenar ujian hidup yang kadang kala kita rasakan amat memeritkan untuk dihindari, pada hal kita tahu ganjarannya adalah syurga daripada Allah.
# Kita selalu menganggap kehidupan di dunia ini untuk hidup selama-lamanya. Oleh itu, kita menghabiskan seluruh sumber dalam diri semata-mata untuk membina pengaruh, mengumpul harta dan kemasyhuran diri seolah-olah ‘kematian’ itu untuk orang lain, bukan untuk kita. Kita lupa semua kejadian akan mati dan walhal akhirat adalah kehidupan abadi.
Oleh itu, dari sekarang kita hentikan perangai suka komplen, komen dan berkeluh kesah.
Kita hargailah kehidupan ini.
Kita jalani kehidupan sebagai khalifah Allah, melakukan yang makruf, melarang perkara yang mungkar.
Kita syukuri nikmat yang ada dan panjangkan nikmat ini kepada orang lain dengan memberikan khidmat menolong dan memudahkan kehidupan orang lain.
Penulis boleh dihubungi pada wanitajim@jim.org.my atau layari www.jendelahikmah05.blogspot.com.
AM, Signing off!
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Latest update (August 27, 2006):
My sup (aka. my prof) is now at home recovering from operation. R and I go to hospital today to bring him back. My prof felt helpless not being able to inhale fresh air while he was in the hospital. Hence, he kind of insisted doctor to let him back home today instead of tomorrow. How? Wearing proper cloth (instead of hospital's one) as if he is going home since early morning so that the doctor will consider his wish. His wish come true! Not a bad strategy at all!
We pray for his speedy recovery.
R, his beloved wife, is so happy now and ANAK MURID also happy to see TOK GURU cepat sihat.
ANAK MURID perlukan TOK GURU untuk membaca buku karangannya...Semuga semuanya dapat diselesaikan secepat mungkin. Ini adalah kerana ANAK MURID tersangat rindu pada kampung halaman, keluarga tersayang dan negara tercinta yang telah ditinggalkan sekian lama. Ameen.
Enough said and must go now...
Jendela Hikmah: Empat punca hidup manusia tidak tenteram
Oleh Endok Sempo M Tahir
SEKUMPULAN bekas pelajar sebuah universiti berkumpul menziarahi bekas pensyarah mereka. Pensyarah itu amat gembira menerima kedatangan bekas pelajar yang berjaya dalam jurusan dan kehidupan masing-masing. Mereka bertanya khabar dengan penuh mesra dan terus terang. Perbincangan berlanjutan sehingga menyangkut kepada permasalahan berbentuk peribadi. Ada yang mengeluh, mengadu dan meluahkan perasaan yang tertekan dengan pelbagai permasalahan, tekanan hidup berkeluarga, dengan rakan di tempat kerja serta masyarakat sekeliling.
Pensyarah itu hanya tersenyum dan terus menuju ke dapur untuk mengambil cawan pelbagai bentuk dan warna. Ada yang dibuat daripada tembikar, kaca dan plastik. Ada yang cantik, penuh hiasan, kelihatan mahal dan ada yang biasa saja dan murah. Pensyarah itu menjemput semua bekas anak murid itu minum menggunakan cawan pilihan mereka.
Apabila semua bekas pelajar itu mengambil cawan yang terisi air, dia pun berkata: ”Jika kamu perhatikan, semua cawan yang cantik dan mahal itu diambil, yang tinggal hanya cawan yang biasa-biasa dan murah! “Begitulah lumrahnya kita hanya akan memilih yang terbaik (menurut pandangan luaran), sebenarnya itulah punca masalah dan tekanan hidup yang kita semua hadapi!”
Apa yang kita perlukan sebenarnya adalah air, bukan cawan itu, tetapi kita secara tidak sedar memilih cawan yang cantik saja! Demikianlah kehidupan ini – ibarat air. Kerjaya, wang ringgit dan kedudukan dalam masyarakat semuanya umpama cawan yang beraneka warna itu. Semua itu adalah alat atau pemudah cara untuk meneruskan hidup tetapi kualiti hidup tidak berubah. Jika kita hanya menumpukan perhatian kepada cawan, kita tidak ada masa untuk menghargai, merasakan dan menikmati air itu!
Apa yang pensyarah itu katakan bertepatan dengan apa yang al- Quran bentangkan mengenai jiwa manusia yang selalu berkeluh kesah dan tidak pernah rasa cukup. Pelbagai permasalahan kita berpunca daripada empat perkara:
# Kita hanya memandang dan menginginkan apa yang ada pada tangan orang lain. Kita tidak nampak atau lupakan nikmat di dalam genggaman kita. Walhal, Allah telah berikan kepada kita. Oleh itu kita tidak rasakan ‘keseronokan’ atau terasa nikmat dengan pemberian itu.
# Kita terlalu banyak ‘komplen’ dan komen (mengadu) dan mengeluh serta menyalahkan keadaan sehingga kepada permasalahan sekecil-kecilnya dalam kehidupan dunia ini. Tetapi, kita sering lupa kesusahan dan penderitaan sebenar yang bakal kita hadapi di akhirat kelak.
# Kita terlalu mengejar kemewahan, kemegahan dan glamor kehidupan sehingga melupakan tujuan hidup kita sebenarnya. Inilah sebenar ujian hidup yang kadang kala kita rasakan amat memeritkan untuk dihindari, pada hal kita tahu ganjarannya adalah syurga daripada Allah.
# Kita selalu menganggap kehidupan di dunia ini untuk hidup selama-lamanya. Oleh itu, kita menghabiskan seluruh sumber dalam diri semata-mata untuk membina pengaruh, mengumpul harta dan kemasyhuran diri seolah-olah ‘kematian’ itu untuk orang lain, bukan untuk kita. Kita lupa semua kejadian akan mati dan walhal akhirat adalah kehidupan abadi.
Oleh itu, dari sekarang kita hentikan perangai suka komplen, komen dan berkeluh kesah.
Kita hargailah kehidupan ini.
Kita jalani kehidupan sebagai khalifah Allah, melakukan yang makruf, melarang perkara yang mungkar.
Kita syukuri nikmat yang ada dan panjangkan nikmat ini kepada orang lain dengan memberikan khidmat menolong dan memudahkan kehidupan orang lain.
Penulis boleh dihubungi pada wanitajim@jim.org.my atau layari www.jendelahikmah05.blogspot.com.
AM, Signing off!
-----------------------------------------
Latest update (August 27, 2006):
My sup (aka. my prof) is now at home recovering from operation. R and I go to hospital today to bring him back. My prof felt helpless not being able to inhale fresh air while he was in the hospital. Hence, he kind of insisted doctor to let him back home today instead of tomorrow. How? Wearing proper cloth (instead of hospital's one) as if he is going home since early morning so that the doctor will consider his wish. His wish come true! Not a bad strategy at all!
We pray for his speedy recovery.
R, his beloved wife, is so happy now and ANAK MURID also happy to see TOK GURU cepat sihat.
ANAK MURID perlukan TOK GURU untuk membaca buku karangannya...Semuga semuanya dapat diselesaikan secepat mungkin. Ini adalah kerana ANAK MURID tersangat rindu pada kampung halaman, keluarga tersayang dan negara tercinta yang telah ditinggalkan sekian lama. Ameen.
Enough said and must go now...
Friday, August 11, 2006
A giant ship engine failed...
My friend send me this story...that teaches a lot.
I am sharing here..to remind myself also.
A giant ship engine failed. The ship's owners tried one expert after another, but none of them could figure but how to fix the engine. Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a young.
He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom. Two of the ship's owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed!
A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand dollars.
"What?!" the owners exclaimed. "He hardly did anything!"
So they wrote the old man a note saying, "Please send us an itemized bill."
CAN YOU GUESS WHAT WAS THE BREAK DOWN????
The man sent a bill that read:
Tapping with a hammer. ............. . $ 2.00
Knowing where to tap..........$ 9,998.00
Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort in your life makes all the difference.
It is weekend again...have a lovely weekend everyone!
Friday, August 11 2006
I am sharing here..to remind myself also.
A giant ship engine failed. The ship's owners tried one expert after another, but none of them could figure but how to fix the engine. Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a young.
He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom. Two of the ship's owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed!
A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand dollars.
"What?!" the owners exclaimed. "He hardly did anything!"
So they wrote the old man a note saying, "Please send us an itemized bill."
CAN YOU GUESS WHAT WAS THE BREAK DOWN????
The man sent a bill that read:
Tapping with a hammer. ............. . $ 2.00
Knowing where to tap..........$ 9,998.00
Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort in your life makes all the difference.
It is weekend again...have a lovely weekend everyone!
Friday, August 11 2006
Saturday, July 29, 2006
Assertive or Aggressive?
It is easy to mistake aggression for assertiveness. If you sense that you are too overpowering when pursuing your goals, watch out for these signs:
Your posture - do you draw yourself up to your full height and spread your limbs widely to occupy the maximum space? Try sitting or standing differently, so that people do not feel physically threatened.
Your gaze - do you stare fixedly at people, willing them to look away? Instead, look directly at the person to whom you're speaking no more than one-third of the time.
Your face - do you wear a cold, unsmiling, or frowning expression when you assert yourself? It is much better to smile as you speak.
Your voice - is your voice loud, deep and hectoring, and do you talk over others? If so, soften and modulate your voice, and allow others to speak in their turn.
Your gestures - are your gestures prodding and accusatory? Try neutral gestures, and don't rely too heavily on your hands for emphasis.
Feb 20, 2006
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