It is easy to mistake aggression for assertiveness. If you sense that you are too overpowering when pursuing your goals, watch out for these signs:
Your posture - do you draw yourself up to your full height and spread your limbs widely to occupy the maximum space? Try sitting or standing differently, so that people do not feel physically threatened.
Your gaze - do you stare fixedly at people, willing them to look away? Instead, look directly at the person to whom you're speaking no more than one-third of the time.
Your face - do you wear a cold, unsmiling, or frowning expression when you assert yourself? It is much better to smile as you speak.
Your voice - is your voice loud, deep and hectoring, and do you talk over others? If so, soften and modulate your voice, and allow others to speak in their turn.
Your gestures - are your gestures prodding and accusatory? Try neutral gestures, and don't rely too heavily on your hands for emphasis.
Feb 20, 2006
11 comments:
Yeah.. everything has to be balanced, sometimes body langguage 'speak' louder than word/voice.
I know what my problem is ..... not assertive enough. Aggressive jauh sekali lah kot :-)
Rasa nya kinda yo-yo! Sometimes assertive and sometimes aggressive...gosh a ms Jekyll Hyde?? Ha ha ha.
:). Tak tau nak komen apa
"S said...
Rasa nya kinda yo-yo! Sometimes assertive and sometimes aggressive...gosh a ms Jekyll Hyde?? Ha ha ha."
THERE'S A MS JEKYLL HYDE? MANA? MANA? INTRO LAH!
this is great advice, thanks Puan Anggerik Merah...
What if you're just plain excited when you speak that you're not aware that you're too agressive?
bestkan kalau menjadi seorang yg beraura dan berkaliber that when u enter the room, people will turn n notice u.. i on the other hand is the one yg akan tenggelam in a crowd..has it got to do with self confidence?
am,
thx for dropping by my blog and also for your kind words...dtgla lagi, jgn malu2...see ya around! :)
these are good tips..
Interesting site. Useful information. Bookmarked.
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