Thursday, January 29, 2009

Life is so beautiful...

Some collections of pictures which shows how beautiful life is...

Alexandria, Egpt, September 2007

Copacabana beach, Rio De Janeiro, Brazil, August 2008

Sunset at Bonton, Langkawi, April 2008
Bergen, Norway, May 2008

Tasek Melati, Perlis, October 2008

Pulau Dayang Bunting, Langkawi, Kedah, April 2008

Dinner show, Mariot Putrajaya, November 2008

Ma living room, 2008

Anggerik Merah

1:32 am

January 30, 2009

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Sense of Achievement

Listing down, I consider, sense of Achievement to my simple definition for the past few weeks…

1) Taking control of my house…i.e. clearing-up things, arranging things the way I like it to be…then I would have mental picture of what and where things in my house. Ever since I came back last 2 years and with maid around, I didn’t had a peace of mind to arrange things the way I want it..just because I am occupied with re-develop my career path back on track and adapting to fast changing office system and bureaucracy and more importantly managing family issues

2) Able to maintain 10 km cycling distance (in 30 minutes with up and down hills) using my steel horse (i.e. kuda besi Tblaze) with 2 feet. Although I have not stretched the limit at least I maintain it for now. It gave me a sense of courage; determination and also it make me sweat. And not to forget strengthen muscle and activate brain cell. It is bliss to feel cool air blowing through while riding the steel horse.

3) Back to kitchen to cook for family and family members especially during weekend do that cook #1 can take time off after doing his part during weekdays. A blessing of not having maid. It is fun but quite tiring post cooking especially cleaning up. It make sense why I seldom blogging nowadays.

4) Taking time to go for picnic with my sister’s family. Something which I had not done for the last 2 years. Believe it or not. Not only that, visiting cousin and makan2 cum lepak2 activities, was not much happening. Now these activities back on track and having visitors at home is more frequent now days.

5) Completed ironing tons of cloth especially office attire which accumulated during my busy weekend. Boy, ironing can be fun but tiring too.

6) Keep fit with running around home. Honestly, I can’t stay home too long because I can’t stop doing things at home. Endless house work that makes me running and walking all the time. Good for fitness but it also means drain out energy while reaching to night time.

7) Riding my other kuda besi with 4 legs is always energizing. Its digital speedometer, smooth brake system and arrow dynamic shape just bring pleasure to my day to day long distance driving. My brain has done loads of thinking and visualizing while driving. But so far, Alhamdullilah, I am a safe conscious person.

My long weekend with CNY celebration focusing on home stay to catch-up things. The plan was to re-focus on #3 (aka unfinished business) with extended holidays till end of the week. But so far, too many visitors at home which means that I had not make any progress on #3. On top of PMS thingy, I dragged myself with much sleep rather than able to stay up.
That’s some sense of accomplishment to me. Just to get me moving…

Anggerik merah
January 27, 2009
10:47 pm

Monday, January 26, 2009

Selamat ulang tahun sayang...

Tercipta Untukku
by Ungu

menatap indahnya senyuman diwajahmu
membuat ku terdiam dan terpaku
mengerti akan hadirnya cinta terindah
saat kau peluk mesra tubuhku

banyak kata
yang tak mampu kuungkapkan
kepada dirimu

aku ingin engkau slalu
hadir dan temani aku
disetiap langkah
yang meyakiniku
kau tercipta untukku
sepanjang hidupku

aku ingin engkau slalu
hadir dan temani aku
disetiap langkah
yang meyakiniku
kau tercipta untukku

meski waktu akan mampu
memanggil seluruh ragaku
ku ingin kau tau
ku slalu milikmu
yang mencintaimu
sepanjang hidupku

aku ingin engkau slalu
hadir dan temani aku
disetiap langkah
yang meyakiniku
kau tercipta untukku

meski waktu akan mampu
memanggil seluruh ragaku
ku ingin kau tau
ku slalu milikmu
yang mencintaimu

Happy b'day to dearest BIG MAN...January 23, 2009

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Get together

Last weekend was a get together among cousin to catch-up on happening and makan-makan event... We enjoyed it very much as much laughter and stories were shared.

To be continued..

Anggerik merah
January 21, 2009

11:44 pm

Wednesday, January 14, 2009


Wonder why I kept on searching motivational ways to keep going:

1) About work: In my department, already 2 of my colleagues battling with cancer. One is breast cancer and another is esofagus cancer. We are lacked of seniors to lead the group. Most of my colleagues left the company for greener pasture. 70% of workforce is less than 5 years experience. A suddent re-org last 2 years had a big impact to people and organisation. Thank God that I was not here when such transformation happen. It is hard to build back the place. I noticed that with my full energy to try to help, only limited number of people that still have that energy to make believe that there is a future for our organisation. The rest just do what ever they are asked to do. Most are demotivated with bringing up the place.

2) About family: With my Asperger syndrome child, much to deal especially with no interest of going to school. But we have to manage and provide whatever needed to get him going. Big man is a stay home day since last April to have more time focusing on lil man's need and education.

3) I am still having my "unfinished business" hold up for almost 2 years now. I must confess, I lost the energy. But I never give up to plan of getting it over. After all that happened in life, this was kept KIV. Something that I never wish to hold anymore. I pray to God to give me all the strength to get to the end and close this chapter of life and move on.

4) At this age, weird that I am still searching for role model in life. It shows that all my life, I never have one. Will I ever have one?

5) Offlate, my energy level is very low. I could not figure out why. I need to boost up that energy. Maybe my fibromyalgia much affecting me.
BTW, I like this quote:

One thing I realise and sometimes laugh at my self...this blog of mine is really a dumping place of my thought and feeling. Nothing sophisticated or educational about what I write here. But I belief it has to stay that way. At least I share my thought and feeling with the whole world.
I don't blog at office since I don't have time for it. Every hours is so precious to get work done and the internet at office also being controlled. Once reach home, I felt half dead already. Travelling time on average 1 - 2 hours a day on the road really kiling me. I bought a house near office but I will only be ready in a year time. It should also serve as our retirement house away from hectic life.
Pic 1: Somewhere in Kota Kinabalu, Sabah
Pic 2: Tasik Dayang Bunting, Langkawi
Pic 3: Bali, Indonesia

This is what I found:
There are TEN Life Laws of Life Strategies outlined by Philip C. McGraw:

Life Law #1 : You either get it, or you don’t.
Strategy : Become one of those who gets it.

Life Law #2 : You create your own experience.
Strategy : Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life.

Life Law #3 : People do what works.
Strategy : Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of others.

Life Law #4 : You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
Strategy : Get real with yourself about your life and everybody in it.

Life Law #5 : Life rewards action.
Strategy : Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger.

Life Law #6 : There is no reality; only perception.
Strategy : Identify the filters through which you view the world.

Life Law #7 : Life is managed; it is not cured.
Strategy : Learn to take charge of your life.

Life Law #8 : We teach people how to treat us.
Strategy : Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you.

Life Law #9 : There is power in forgiveness.
Strategy : Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you.

Life Law #10 : You have to name it before you can claim it.
Strategy : Get clear about what you want and take your turn.

January 14, 2009
8:15 pm

Sunday, January 11, 2009

Fun Quotient (FQ)...

It has been a week since I started to go back to work after along holiday end of last year. Back to hectic life at work. I was out to stay in the hotel again for a day and night work. That took me from Tuesday nite till Friday evening. I didn't even go out from hotel because our event run even at night. I was given a task to facilitate one of the groups. Stuck in a hotel for many days leads me to exhaustion again. I don't even had a chance to be in gym. Cold temperature in the grand ballroom somewhat affect my nerve and muscle again. I tried to ignore it. But at the end of the day, I lost most of my energy and what I need is some sleep everytime I was in my hotel room. I might be still in holiday mood hence not productive.

Anyway, I am learning to stop and relax whenever I need. Not pushing to limit as I was always expected to do.

This weekend help me to recollect my energy. I started 10 km cycling again after some break during holiday due to flu. My wish is that I regain my energy and able to do whatever I need to do. To be alive and kicking...

Be back when time permit. Please find me a copy of FQ tip from NLP.

Anggerik Merah
Jan 11, 2009
11:59 pm

"A Simple Way to Reduce Stress While Giving Your FunQuotient (FQ) a Boost"

(c)Colin G Smith - All Rights reserved

Have you noticed all the different intelligences we havethese days?!Cultural Quotient (CQ)
Curiosity Quotient (CQ)
Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EQ)
Empathizing Quotient (EQ)
Systemizing Quotient (SQ)
Sentience Quotient (SQ)
Social Intelligence Quotient (SQ)
Spiritual Intelligence Quotient (SQ)

So that's four of them named SQ! Does this enhance ourlives? Surely only the FQ really matters! You know, the simple fact is the more fun and humour we have in our lives, the more we reduce the stress caused by the modern dis-ease of seriousness. Personally I think having fun and being playful is the natural human condition, it's just that certain systems/constraints in modern societies can have us acting like numb automatons.

I'm inspired by an observation Anthropologist, Colin Turnball made in his book, "The Forest People", with regards to how adult Pygmies laugh:

"When Pygmies laugh it is hard not to be affected; they hold on to each other as if for support, slap their sides, snap their fingers and go through all manner of physical contortions. If something strikes them as particularly funny they will even roll on the ground..."

Imagine being able to do that...Of course you probably wouldn't want to act like that at the office, right?

But get this; Actually imagine falling down laughing like a Pygmie in your office or place of work right now. Simply doing this in your imagination, enables you to have more access to the fun-zones of your mind in that situation next time you're there. Don't take my word for it though, test it out in your own experience. It's part of what I like to call, "The Ridiculous Behaviour Generator" from page 60 of "The NLP ToolBox."

Because our minds go in directions, from time to time, it is very useful to purpose fully re-direct our thought patterns. Sending our mind towards more fun and humour is an excellent choice because it enables us to have more flexibility of behaviour and increased resourcefulness, whereas over-seriousness tends to be a narrow, rigid state.

So go ahead and pick 3 situations now that you want to 'funify.' Starting with the one that will be the easiest to change, go through the "Ridiculous Behaviour Generator" below:

Ridiculous Behaviour Generator
1. Think of a situation where you want to have more fun.
2. See yourself over there in the situation, like you are watching a movie.
3. See yourself having more fun, maybe joking with the other people in the movie.
4. Go back to the start of the movie and try out a different way of having more fun. Perhaps notice something you haven't seen/heard before that makes you chuckle.
5. Now, again from the start, see yourself in the movie and do some behaviour(s) that you would never do in reality. Get really silly with this one. Do something outrageous that just makes you crack up laughing.
6. Break state. Think of the situation again and notice how you feel better about it and look forward to having even more fun in the situation in the future.

Great! In step 5 it's best to do something really outlandish that you'd never do in reality. You know, like launching into the room, naked, doing cartwheels or turning up to that meeting in a Gimp suit, juggling fire sticks! The point is, does it get you laughing because that's the direction you want to be going in is it not?

Now run the other 2 situations through the Ridiculous Behaviour Generator and begin to find yourself looking forward to a more fun filled future. When you've practised this technique a few times you will be able to do it faster, which will allow you to inject more fun quickly and easily into situations before they've occurred and that's good planning right?

More fun! Less stress. Brighter futures. Better decisions.
O'yeah and a boosted FQ!

Author Bio:Colin G Smith is a licensed Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and author of 'The NLPToolBox', a personal development book that enables thereader to master any area of their life with amazing speed. Complete information on Colin G Smith's books are availableat his website, including a FREE personal development mini-course.