Monday, March 19, 2007

Being different…is a gift

No ending story in learning until the day we die. God given brain, opportunity and challenges are the factors that keep us to continue learning about life. Of course it is more to life other than learning for the sake of making money.

The truth is I don’t even know how to begin writing in this blog to share, even to write what is running in my thought for the last couple of months. Just to found out that we are given new opportunities to learn about something else. That is one of our family members is being diagnosed as “Asperger’s Syndrome” ( a form of mild autism) after some testing/analysis done very recently. It is all make sense reflecting the past and the behavior observed and shown recently.

We look at it on the positive side as this is not at all too abnormal as there are individual in this world that was born with it or experience it such as this person. The most important is that this is recognized earlier and we could have a better approach to deal and to bring the best out of this gift of being different…that is for our beloved "lil man".

It is amazing how Allah leads me much earlier to know some blogger's friend who have to face the same challenges and also someone who specialised/studied Autism such as Atenah (seems that we have loads more to share apart from sharing our ups and down of PhD roller coaster...). It is like placing puzzle together through the blog world. Giving one of the example, that is as in Kak Teh's entry on blog, woman, blog!, the power of sharing through blogging..



A note to our beloved lil man,

As you are a precious God given gift to us, both mama & papa will do our best to bring you to your highest potential in every aspect of your life with the capability & limitation that you have. Now that we understand you better and you always make us to understand you better. We understand that you are different and learning about you will be a challenge for both of us as your parent and it will be enjoyable too..

We love you very very much.


We are all together to make the best of our life with guidance from Allah..AMIN

10 comments:

Kak Lady said...

Rasanya Lil Man lebih bertuah kerana mempunyai papa & mama yang istimewa seperti u....kerana tidak semua yang diberi Allah untuk menerima hikmah seperti U...

Semoga u akan sentiasa menjadi mama yang istimewa di hati lil man....

simah said...

*hugs*..

saya setuju dengan kak lady.. lil man memang bertuah sebab papa n mama dia cuba berpandangan positive in all this..

i am confident ur lil man will reach his highest potential coz love n patience n guidance esp from his love ones will make him stornger inside..

simah said...

like u said urself...
*being different...is a gift*..he is always a very precious gift for u..

maklang said...

InsyaAllah apa yang kita usahakan untuk anak2 akan dirahmatiNya....

meandbaby said...

As a mother to a special child I know how it feels.hugs from me.I've a friend who has a son with Asperger's Syndrome.doing very good in school.

Anonymous said...

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a special child's mother told lina's sister that she was the first person who did not cringe and genuinely hugged back when her special child (who was really into hugging then) wanted to hug her.

she was surprised to hear that because to her a child is a child is a child and if a child wants a hug, then the child gets a hug.

dudaesimboyo

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Anonymous said...

you are amazingly strong in this situation, lil man is lucky for this. one of the best authority on AS is Tony Attwood. Buzz me if you want me to get books for you from here. i'll see you as soon as i get back as i have a project in kajang. we can talk abt providing supports for lil man. if you need to talk to me before i go home, email me yr phone no. and i'll call you.

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Queen Of The House said...

AM, I had no idea of what you were going through re your Lil Man. (((Hugs))) He will be alright, insyaallah, with the best care and guidance. Take it from me ..... I thought my world was crashing down on me when I realised my eldest girl had a disability, but now I see that where she lacks, she makes up for in other ways. Like Dudae said ...a child is a child is a child .... and is always a joy.

D said...

Hang on, because Allah is always with us and he knows best. I've read about AS but still don't know much about it. I think there is a growing awareness on special education in Malaysia now, Alhamdulillah. More doctorates are coming home with expertise in the field, especially autism. The blessing is: you detected it and that's a great achievement already! Syabas and all the best.

JammyBunny said...

You and your husband sound truly inspiring. ALLAH SWT is great and merciful, HE has promised us that after difficulty, there is always relief ( Surat Al Inshirah ). Keep up the good work.