Monday, May 08, 2006

Tips by Paul McKenna: Changing your life in 7 days

April 29, 2006.
As promised earlier (especially for fellow bloggers who suggest me to share).
For my bedtime story, I read this book based on daily basis (one chapter per/day) as recommended by the author. I did not finish it. I stopped at day 4. The days laid out in the book are:

Day 1: Who are you, Really?
(Discover your true potential and become the person you really want to be)
Day 2: A Use’s Manual for Your Brain
(Master your emotions and release your full potential)
Day 3: The Power of a Positive Perspective
(The art of reframing)
Day 4: Dreamsetting
(Discover what you truly want and make your dreams come true)
Day 5: Healthy foundations
(Creating and maintaining a healthy body, mind and spirit)
Day 6: Creating Money
(Discovering the secrets of the millionaire’s mind)
Day 7: Happily Ever After
(Live the secrets of life-long happiness – now!)

I stopped at day 4 for quite sometimes. It is about dream which I had before, I might have lost it somewhere in the jungle or I had lost in translation. In search of my dream, I slowly walk back few steps, muhasabah and ask for His direction. I follow my heart and instinct. I did not get all but at least I can see some light at the end although it seems very far to reach. It comes and goes. I kept on standing and walk even sometimes I fall. That is life huh! We have to keep going…

Points quoted from dream setting:

There are essentially only 3 things you need to have a wonderful life:

1. A clear direction (your dream)
2. A well-aligned compass (your values)
3. Milestones you can visit along the way to your ultimate destination (your goals)

We can think about it like this:
When you pursue your goals guided by your values in the context of your dreams, miracles happen!


A wonderful story quoted from Mc Kenna’s book in day 4 is:

A man was walking along a beach, reflecting on his life. He had always wanted to make a difference, but no matter what he tried, he wound up feeling as thought he was spitting into the wind.

Suddenly, he man heard a loud ‘crunch’, and looked down at his feet. Right where he was standing, and for as far as the eye could see in either direction, there were thousands upon thousands of tiny starfish washed up onto the shore by the ocean waves and tide.

The man continued walking, thinking to himself about the apparent cruelty of the ocean. After all, those starfish hadn’t done anything wrong! Yet before the day was done, they would be dead, washed up on shore and left to die.

After a time, the man came across an old woman standing at the ocean’s edge, throwing starfish that had washed up on shore back into the sea.
When he asked her what he was doing, she said she had always wanted to make a difference, and she had decided that today was a good day to begin.

The man looked from her to the thousands upon thousands of starfish that lay dying along the coastline and said, ‘For every starfish you throw back into the ocean, three more wash up onto the shore! How can you possibly be making a difference?’

The woman looked thoughtful for a moment, then she picked up another starfish and threw it back into the sea. ‘Made a difference to that one,’ she said, and she smiled the most beautiful smile the man had ever seen.
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On top of all this, no other manual is as perfect as Kitab suci Al-Quran.

May all of us have a wonderful weekend :-))

6 comments:

maklang said...

I am with you 100%...Al-Quran is the best!!!

annckay said...

Our actions need not be big, just good deed that is continuous and consistent...

sue said...

back to the root of everything..for peace of mind

torts said...

yes ~ al-Quran. thank you.

simah said...

Salam perkenalan..

yes..The Quran is always a soothing book for all occasions..too bad we (me especially) do not use it to our advantage fully.....

personal development said...

Visualization is a tool that has been used for thousands of years by initiates of all the metaphysical schools. Today, it is incorporated into top athlete's daily routines and is used in business affairs frequently. It's use is wide-spread among highly successful people, either consciously or unconsciously, aware of its create power. So if it has stood the test of time and is still being used by high achievers we must come to the conclusion that it works! But has it ever worked for you?

If you answered 'yes' to the above question then you know how powerful this technique can be. If, on the other hand, you gave the more likely answer 'no' then take heart for I am about to reveal to you a sure fire way of reaching your objectives through this mostly misunderstood art.

The trouble with visualization is simple - its in its name!

When studying and contemplating the art of visualization most people have the impression that they must create visual images and make them real or life-like. Many people, in fact the majority, find this almost impossible to do. Even if they can formulate a solid picture of their objective they find it extremely difficult to sustain the image for any length of time. Either the image fades, changes or other intruding thoughts intervene.

This type of visualization is almost impossible to sustain and luckily it is not at all necessary. Why? Because it is in the subconscious mind that your visualization needs to be placed and there is good news. The subconscious mind does not know the difference between an imaginary event and a real one. Your visual image only needs to be a strong visually as any other imagined event. However, that is only half the story.

If all you had to do was just imagine stuff and your world automatically changed to reflect your imaginings this world would be full of chaos (not to mention all those creepy crawly bug-eyed monsters!). Therefore, there are a few more steps to complete before the visualization is passed to the subconscious for manifestation.

Let's try a little experiment. Remember a scene from your past that has a lot of good feelings around it. Any good memory will do, like the first time you heard the words "I love you" from your partner, an amazingly spectacular sunset, a great holiday event or your last birthday. Pick one and remember it. How clear is the image? Can you remember any sounds? What way did you feel? Is there any sense of touch, taste or smell? Identify how your memory works. Is it mostly visual, auditory, kinaesthetic or of a feeling nature?

Now we are going to create an imagined event in our lives that has the same strength and potency as that image. So relax and let's go.

Imagine something that you do everyday, something that you did yesterday, today and will do tomorrow. Let us take the example of waking up tomorrow morning. Don't try to add or take anything away, just think about it and analyse the scene. Is it dark or light? Are you lying next to someone in bed? Do you still feel tired? Has the alarm clock sounded? Are you irritable that you have to get up or full of joy at the dawn of a new day?

You will find that the imagined event is very similar to the memory with probably one key difference - your point of perspective. Is the memory behind you and the future event in front of you? Is one to the left and one to the right? Maybe they are both in front of you or the future seems to move in a clockwise direction. Whatever the perspective the thing to notice is that they are very similar in appearance.

Now imagine doing your future event a week from now, then a month from now, then six months from now. Where are those images placed? Are they moving further away, going clockwise, from left to right? This is your time-line and using it is important in visualization as you will see later.

Ok, let's imagine something that is very unlikely to happen and see where it differs from the last image.

Imagine you are sitting somewhere familiar which is extremely comfortable and relaxing to you. Now imagine that a person you know well comes up to where you are and says "hello". Imagine them telling you that they want to show you a new trick. All of a sudden they have three juggling balls. They throw them in the air and begin to juggle with ease. Then they begin to whistle one of your favourite tunes. You suddenly realize that there is a strong smell of flowers in the room and notice a vase of them just behind the juggler. Imagine laughing loudly at the scene and feeling joyful at the experience. Then the person juggling leans forward stands on leg and puts the other leg outstretched behind them. All the while still juggling and whistling. Then they begin to hop on their leg as a small bird flies over to perch on their head. Once you have the imagined event and stayed with it a few moments just let it fade.

Ok open your eyes. What was the difference between the two images? Can you spot any? Did you use more, less or roughly the same senses in your fantasy event as you did in the future one? Did you see them from different angles? Was the picture bigger in one than the other? Was the sound clearer, the feelings more acute or the smell stronger? Take some time and go back to each scene in your mind. How does the future event differ from the fantasy one? Are you looking at both from a different vantage point? Do you see yourself in the image of one but not the other? Analyse the scenes and see where they differ.

Have you identified how the future event differs from the fantasy one? If you have then its time to make visualization work for you! Take a goal that you have been working on or would like to achieve. Nothing too far-fetched at this point please! Pick something that is possible but at the moment seems a little impractical. Once you have it form a mental image of what it would be like to have, be or do that thing or be in that experience. Remember to form it the same way you do a memory. Give it the same strength visually, in sound, feeling, taste and touch - use your mind in its natural state. All you have to do is imagine the scene.

Ok how does it differ from the scene of waking in the morning? Can you identify the differences in perspective, sound, taste, touch, feelings and what you hear?

Now there will be one other key thing that differs in the images- it is very simple but often overlooked. You know that the future event is going to happen! This is reflected in the way we experience the image. So what we are going to do is fool your subconscious mind into thinking your goal is definitely going to happen by manipulating your goal image!

Once you know what the differences are in each image begin to change the goal image so that it is seen the same way as the future event in your imagination. Place the visualized scene in exactly the same position with the same perspective as your future event.

Place it in the correct position on your time-line. You may already begin to feel that the goal is more possible. Visualise in this way everyday and you will condition your subconscious mind to manifest the experiences necessary to make your goal attainment certain.

One more thing to remember: During the day think about your goal often. This reinforces the visualization and will begin to dispel doubt from your mind. self hypnosis