Martians vs Venusians

How MARTIANS cope with stress:

1. become focused and withdrawn
2. feel better by solving problems
3. lose temporary awareness of everything else
4. do not burden others with their own problems
5. retreat, go quiet and find solutions
6. do somethong else to forget problems
7. become distant, forgetful, unresponsive
8. on solving the problem become attentive again

How VENUSIANS cope with stress:

1. become overwhelmed and emotionally involved
2. feel better by talking about problems
3. continue talking about logically unrelated problems, worries, frustrations
4. openly talk about their problems and feelings
5. share feelings of being overwhelmed
6. need loving friends
7. become emotionally involved in other people's problems
8. by talking and being heard, the stress disappears

MARTIANS NEED TO:

1. Listen without offering solutions
2. Help solve problems without quick-fix attitude
3. Feel trusted and appreciated

VENUSIANS NEED TO:

1. Talk about their problems and feelings
2. Accept without giving advice or criticism
3. Have their feelings validated

by John Gray, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus